Wednesday, March 31, 2010

{something I must remember}

it is a good thing.....being able to say "yes"

{but remembering ....}

I am allowed to say "no"

{without the guilt}

48 comments:

Kissed by an Angel said...

I totally agree with that Koralee!!! It's hard to do though eh?? It's brilliant advice and we should all practice it sometimes!!!
xxxx

Tiedupmemories said...

Oh So true so true!Love those beautiful flowers! Thank you for your vote!

~*~ saskia ~*~ said...

Oh my, how on earth did you make this awesome image? Those bright colors ... and what gorgeous colors! About your words, thank you so so much for remembering. I have to learn that it's good to say ~no~ every now and then. Have a happy day, sweet friend. xoxoxo

BlueGrassandGreenTomatoes said...

I have the hardest time saying "no" to anyone and everyone. I've been working on that for years now... Since high school actually.

Oh wait, I must go. Someone was asked to borrow my computer. ;)

P.S. I'm having a little giveaway on my blog, and I'd love if you have a chance to stop by!

emilia. said...

True, true. Cute photo! Love it. :)
Xoxo, Emily @ www.thewhitewayofdelight.blogspot.com

Herself said...

True! Why is that so hard to do?

The English Writer said...

I think saying "no" is definately the most difficult, but said in the right way it makes you stronger. Karen.

Love the Decor! said...

Amen to that!!
Have a wonderful day!!

Randi Troxell said...

aaaahh..

so so true.. but so hard for me, sometimes.. i try though to be better about NO!

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

YES! THAT IS SO RIGHT! Once in a while to say no is for your own good!

Lovely painting! Anita

Jeanette said...

I think it is such a wonderful gift to yourself to be able to say no. I wish I would have learned while my daughter was growing up. Oh, the time spent helping on fundraisers boggles the mind. I've got it down now though (only a teeny bit of guilt). It's never too late! Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving such a sweet comment. The image is very cool.

Julie Harward said...

Love the pic. and I learned that lesson years ago while raising a big family, you just cannot "do it all!" Come say hi :D

becky said...

I agree with Julie up there you cannot do it all,no is good when youve done your best and need some rest,lol.Love the photo and the gorgeous blue rose!

It's me said...

Yes yes yes !!.........o no..........

Hugs from me.................

Rubyred said...

Totally agree Koralee! Even if it is hard sometimes!
Great image too!
Rachel x

Sue (Someone's Mom) said...

Learning how to say "no" was the best thing I ever did. I sort of had to age into it...now, I have no problem with it at all:)

I'm still in Florida with my mom...will be here a while. She is still in the hospital, but making progress. I'm gradually going to read a blog or 2, snapping pictures for when I can stay awake long enough to write something. I just wanted to say "hi"!

Martina Voigt-Schmid said...

Yes!!!! No is hard to say, but can be a relieve sometimes - yes and no are like night and day, no? You inspired me again - and i LOVE that polka dot cup in your new profile picture ;)

Karyn Bernard (French Charming) said...

Gorgeous image my friend and timely words for me...thanks, I needed that!

Big hugs,
Karyn

Cat said...

Bravo! Very nicely put!

Cristie said...

Oh, right on. I have had to write down statements and hang them up on my fridge to remind me that I don't always have to say "YES". Things like " I wish I could, but I won't be able to right now". I do have that one memorized. Thank heavens.

Beth Gales said...

Amen (although easier said than done)!

Terra said...

I read something profound which I often remember: each time we say "no" to something it is also a big "yes" since it allows us to say yes to something else.
Isn't that way cool? I'm backing you up here on saying "no" sometimes.

myletterstoemily said...

'no' has saved my life a few times!

i love the story of the two brothers.
one always said, "yes," but never
followed through.

the other said, "no," but eventually
would obey.

blessings,
lea

Amy said...

A wonderful reminder!

Carousel Dreams said...

Absolutely Koralee! It took me a very long time to learn that it was ok to say no and not feel bad about it...

Sewn With Grace said...

The older I get, the easier it is to say no. Unless it's a child or a close friend, or new fabric, yarn, teacups, oh brother :)

Maria said...

Hi Koralee...
Don't you think, as we get older, it's easier and easier to say no?
When my children were in their teens, their youth pastor once said: There are many 'good' things to say 'yes' to, but not all of them are the 'best' choice for this moment.

I woke up one day, years ago, and realized that it's okay to "pass the baton" and move onward to either something new or to freedom.

I have also learned that some things are very costly time-wise, but produce "little fruit."

Can you tell I've thought of this topic a bit ;o)
Peace to you always ~ Maria

Libbie said...

Thoe flowers sure brightened up my day!!!

Sometimes I try to remember saying "No" means saying "YES" to time with my family. :) But I do like to say "yes" too!

Amanda said...

So very true Koralee - and vice versa too sometimes - like saying yes to lots of easter eggs, also without the guilt!!

tinypaperheart said...

how true! i often struggle with saying no, too.

Cornflake said...

Aah the power of saying 'no'

Have a lovely Easter Koralee and thanks for stopping by Cornflake.

p.s. great profile pic!

erin said...

o.k...i just found your blog and just LOVE all the bright cheerful colors you got goin on here...and when i saw you had 777 followers...i decided you needed one more! happy spring to ya!
erin

Debbie said...

I am just learning to say "no" more and more...it has taken some time though...and now I have to learn NOT to feel so guilty for doing so.
Thanks for this beautiful and meaningful post.
Cheers:)
Debbie

Susan said...

Saying "no" isn't always so difficult... without guilt..that is the hard part!

I have found that it is often wise to say, "I'd like some time to think {pray} about it," before overcommitting.

Love your colorful flower pic. Wondering how it is made.
Blessings!

Rose said...

So so true! but often so so hard.

I hope you have a lovely easter weekend Koralee :)

Rose

Suzie Button said...

Such a great and difficult lesson to learn, for sure! I am much better at knowing what I really want to be involved in as I get older, I imagine when I'm 80 I'll be truly a genuine person! Ha! Suzie

CARMELINA LOUNSBURY said...

Koralee...
I think we spent our twenties trying to say yes to everyone and everything, only to learn that it's just too taxing on ourselves!
Then in our thirties, we learn that saying no is not a sign of failure or inability on our part, but rather it is a sign of maturity, of learning how to stay within our own limits, but I think that we may still hold on to the guilt part a little more than we should...

perhaps freedom from this guilt is finally released in our fourties! I'll let you know when I get there in five years! lol

ciao bella
very simple, very beautiful and insightful!

always creative
always carmelina

Draffin Bears said...

Hi Koralee,

I think it is a good thing to be able to say no, now and again ~
Love your pretty picture.

Happy Easter
Hugs
Carolyn

Rosie said...

We women are such "pleasers"...(ok, spell check is telling me that's not even a word)...but we totally don't want to inconvenience anyone ...and what if someone were actually offended ...oh the guilt!...in the mean time, they will commit us to a sanitarium (because we are completely exhausted, and have had a nervous break down ...ok, I think that it might be alright to say "No", "I must decline, this time" or "maybe next time"...yes, we might all be the better for it...thank you, Koralee for inspiring some "self~help" ...apparently I was in need...love Rosie

Martha said...

Love this...love, love, love it!

Marina said...

I love those words Koralee.
Happy Easter to you my friend.
xx

B said...

Wise words my friend; once in a while saying 'no' feels so liberating.

Happy Easter

B XXX

Haleigh said...

definitely a mantra I need to be brave enough to practice more! Thank you for you beautiful words of wisdom...it is always a pleasure :-D

xoxo Bardot in Blue
http://bardotinblue.com

ELK said...

it can set you free!

Joanna said...

cute blog, love it! It so full of color & wonderful photos. Now I'm inspired. :)
Thanks for the comment on the PC blog.

xoxo, Joanna

Catherine said...

A very good reminder indeed! And sometimes 'no' is the best answer for the person who is asking ~ especially if it is our children! :)

Bunny, THE PARIS HOUSE said...

Hello Koralee, Your image is so beautiful, I could stare at it all day!! I love to say 'Yes' as often as possible and when it the right thing to say...of course it is not too good to say 'yes' every time my kids ask for more candy :)...then it is a big NO.
My business gets asked on a daily basis to do something in our community and town for various organizations.( donate our services) I now only volunteer our services when it is benefitting someone in need or something historical...otherwise I say no! I need all of my free time for my family and various charities that are in need of my help..( I will coordinate and host events to raise money but I say no if it isn't going to help someone than my business isn't a free service) It is funny the things I get asked to do by people I hardly know!
Being able to say no is something that has come much easier to me in my 40's..
Have a lovely Easter
xoxo
Bunny

Slumber Designs said...

Amen to that! And a great reminder. Thanks Dear, I needed to hear that today!